Just friends? You are a liar scientifically! | Cool Reason

Of all the human-created relationships, friendship probably stands at the top by its virtue. It sometimes becomes more important than even the blood relations. This relationship has changed its course from between the people of same sex to (a more common form, today) between the people of opposite genders. While there can?t be any questions raised against the former; it is only if they make an AC-DC couple, it may instigate a debate. But when it comes to your friendship with opposite sex, you really need to re-consider it.

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What is wrong with male and female friendship?

Till now people may have only doubted the existence of platonic friendship between members of opposite gender but they now have a reason. If recent scientific studies are to be believed then this sort of friendship is just nominal and actually doesn?t exist. These studies have clearly suggested the existence of affinity between the male and female friends. This lays the platform for miserable affairs. The attraction becomes a major source of displeasure within the current love affairs and leads to breakups.

What causes the problem?

The biggest reason is the human instinct. Man still lives by mating instincts whereas the plain (read non-physical and non-sexual) friendship concept is new-fangled into man?s behavior. Man has adopted it at the social front but the fundamental instinct remains still intact.

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This is exactly what I had been asking my friend, Daniel, for long now. I always had the apprehension on his relationship with Sylvester, a girl who had become an integral part of our friend circle since college days. I still remember the days when Daniel was madly in love with Jenifer, the supposedly prettiest girl in our college then. They both could be seen lost into each other till they eventually separated and parted on a bad note.

There is a definite reason why I am narrating the story. The recent scientific studies, which I had an accidental look at, refreshed my memory about what had happened to the wonderful person in my story. He was trapped between the love and friendship. He couldn?t handle it and failed at both. These studies answered what I used to often ask Daniel about his and Sylvester?s relationship.

The short story

It was the millennium change for the world; to me it was the change of life. Like a caterpillar larvae which undergoes metamorphosis to transform into an adult, I was feeling the same. It obviously is a great feeling to join a good college. It provides the platform to chase your dreams, besides you live the best part of life there.

On the very second day in the college I met Daniel, a tall and handsome guy with some sort of seriousness on face. Within a few days we became good friends. We would discuss on various things though girls would be the hot topic every day. These were the initial days in the college so interacting with a number of students is obvious.

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There are certain things you love to do and become a norm with the passage of time. One such habit, that me and Daniel had unknowingly developed by then, was to shed some sweat in the basketball court. While he would often score over me because of his tall stature, I could see him missing attempts quite frequently. Anyone would be normally happy to be winning but my investigative nature drove me to find the reason. I could see his eyes making rotations and revolutions to see in a particular direction.

Tracing his eyes I could see the pretty girl, clad in red running round the park?girls these days are so conscious about their body shape. Using my index figure to activate the special neurons on my mind, I did remember she was Jenifer; I had seen her in the bookstore, a couple of days before. I was about to scream I know her when I couldn?t trace Daniel around. For some time I couldn?t find the tall guy around. (He had already left to talk to the red clad woman)

I sometimes wonder is there anything what people call as love at first sight. To my despair it proved to be; Daniel and Jenifer staring dating each and in no time, they were into a relationship. It was well defined?a love affair or romance, as they call it. After that they could be seen together most of the time, often lost in each other.

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A year has passed, there were quite a number of good friends and Daniel was always there. We had stopped the all important basket ball but would still manage to get time and discuss things. With New Year on, the new batch of students was to make the way into college, including the ?just friend? of Daniel who actually changed the complexion of his life.

Yes I am talking of the Sylvester who in no time became a very important member of our ?gang?. She developed strong bonding with Romeo-Juliet pair of our college and could be often traced with them. All was well till then but within few months, Sylvester could be seen more often with Daniel. I did sense something wrong as the vivid analyst in me would often hint the trouble in advance.

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Apprehensions on male-female friendship rode on my mind even then and I did ask Daniel about it. He plainly dubbed it as ?simple friendship?. Though I couldn?t buy his statement but wouldn?t have been able to make him understand anyway. I did manage to tell to him to reconsider and if he was feeling some drop in the love for Jenifer. It was only when he broke up with Jennifer he could realize it. The worse thing was still to come; Sylvester, whom Daniel though was her love, was friends with Mike. She was not sure about Daniel and the chain went on.

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I don?t mean to say that the people who have friends among opposite gender are not faithful to their love partners. However, the concern is people crossing the limits, being friends and they realize only after developing the intimacy which as such is not acceptable to the current romance partner.

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